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Labels are double-edged swords.  Smart. Autistic. Sensitive. Athletic. Slow. Homosexual. Female. Depressed. Disabled. Emotional. Advanced. Beautiful. Anxious. Straight. Introverted. Charming. Hyper. Macho. ADHD. Cute. Difficult. I could go on and on.  There are so many words that we can use to describe ourselves and other people.  On the one hand, these words can be incredibly […]

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I really hate the date night solution:  the idea that you keep a relationship happy and healthy through regular date nights.  Okay, so don’t get me wrong.  I don’t think there’s anything remotely wrong with a couple organising a babysitter and going out to a restaurant or a movie for the evening.  If you manage […]

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You may have heard that when your child is distressed you should be responsive: responding in a compassionate and caring way.  You may also have heard that you should reflect back to your child their feelings or their desire (‘you are feeling sad’ or ‘you’d really like that ice-cream’) and problem-solving the situation with your […]

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We all know that we should be reading to our children from an early age in order to foster literacy and grow a life-long love of the written word in our children.  But numeracy and a life-long love of mathematics is arguably just as crucial to our children’s later success.  In fact, as digital natives, […]

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The consistency myth

Everyone knows that parents need to be consistent.  But what exactly does being consistent mean?  The trouble is the word ‘consistent’ conjures up images of parents rigidly acting in the exact same way, following exactly the same detailed rules, inflexibly sticking to the same script day after day.  It suggests that one deviation, on one […]

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As a behaviour change tool, punishment has its limitations.  Before I tell you why I need to bore you with some technical definitions.  The word punishment usually means a penalty or a negative experience imposed on someone when they are guilty of wrong doing.  Within behavioural science, punishment is a technical term meaning any event […]

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Parents may use behavioural parenting strategies such as logical consequences or praise, but use them from a standpoint of dispensing justice. They may even take a punitive approach, believing that if a child has done the wrong thing then they deserve to be punished, to suffer for their wrong doing.  Or they may simply believe […]

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