As a behaviour change tool, punishment has its limitations.  Before I tell you why I need to bore you with some technical definitions.  The word punishment usually means a penalty or a negative experience imposed on someone when they are guilty of wrong doing.  Within behavioural science, punishment is a technical term meaning any event […]

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Parents may use behavioural parenting strategies such as logical consequences or praise, but use them from a standpoint of dispensing justice. They may even take a punitive approach, believing that if a child has done the wrong thing then they deserve to be punished, to suffer for their wrong doing.  Or they may simply believe […]

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baby with dummy

The instinct to suck is present moments after birth and plays a crucial role in supporting babies’ early growth and development.  Like sexual behaviour, sucking has a predictable developmental trajectory.  It is strongest in infancy and gradually fades as children age.  There are individual differences in the degree to which children suck and how the […]

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It frustrates me when I hear parental responsiveness being discussed as if responsiveness were a matter of following specific rules.  This can make parents feel confused and guilty and it just isn’t correct.  It also suggests that all responsive parent-child relationships look the same, when in fact, responsiveness is flexible and creative.  Responsiveness is, by […]

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Becoming Mum front

Hooray!  At long last Becoming Mum is officially available as an ebook.  It is available in all the major formats: Amazon, Google, Apple, Kobo and Nook.  Becoming Mum is, of course, still available as a paperback.  You can purchase the paperback directly through the Becoming Mum website or via your usual online retailer such as Amazon, the Book Depository  or Angus and Robertson. […]

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It infuriates me the number of times I’ve heard people express in public discourse that parenting is ‘a lifestyle choice’.   The implication is, of course, that parents have no right to expect consideration, adjustments or support from society as a whole and that non-parents have no obligation to make financial contributions, through taxes, to support […]

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‘It’s not who you’ve known, but who you’re knowing’ Who are you ‘knowing’? Who do you spend time listening to?  Who do you make efforts to understand?  Who do you treasure learning little details about? Who are you aware of?  Who are you insightful about?  Who do you share living with? Work colleagues, acquaintances, celebrities, […]

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